HOME: Oakland, California
GENDER: Male
ZODIAC SIGN: Cancer
WHAT’S QUEER: For me, that which is pushing against normativity, that which actively encourages spaces of community and relationships where people don’t have to cover themselves for the comfort of others. That ain’t to say that sexually and socially “queer” and or/otherized folks don’t do this in “queer” spaces….speaking to and about those dynamics is important as well.
WHY PORN: For me is about the possibility of envisioning and creating connections that we are discouraged from in the “real” world. Porn has been freeing for me in the connections I’ve made with people I’ve performed with, and what I’m able to represent in and around the intersecting communities I traverse through my life.
WILDEST FANTASY: There’s this blacktopped playground…it’s about dusk…..I’m standing between Venus and Serena Williams they are wearing braids with red black and green beads (in that order). They take turns punching me in the stomach. Beaded braids are slapping me in the face, loose beads are bouncing around on the blacktop.There’s a segue to some kind of brownboi/boy/butch/masculine of center puppy pile/gangbang thing. I’m fortunate to have realized a lot of fantasy scenarios in real time so I need tpo work a lil’ harder on putting thoughts on that together (smile).
CAN’T LIVE WITHOUT: My radio, My laptop to make beats, Garrett Popcorn, deep dish pizza, Italian sausage ( I grew up in Chicago) my sister’s pot roast, mac-n-cheese and banana pudding. Chicken Tikka Masala. Electric bass playin’ dykes. Ultramagnetic MC’s “Critical Beatdown” album. Esther Phillips, Johnny Taylor, Gil Scott-Heron. Cooley High. A good barber to taper my beard. Nice shoes. Homemade amateur porn, particularly squirting and handjob stuff. My family which is a mix of blood and chosen folk.
MAKES ME HOT: Accountability. Intersectionality. Deconstruction. Enthusiastic consent. Versatility. Body criminality. Chunky heels. High socks. White tights. Beards. hairy forearms. Giving head. A strong hand on the back of my neck. Hard kissing. Deep eye contact. Fucking people with my hand until they’re throat-sore screaming. Presence and fighting to be present because I know the kinds of things that people have to go through to do so.
MAKES ME NOT: WhiteSupremacistAbleistClassistTheistHeteroCisPatriarchy ( “It’s really quite a -trohhhhh-cious… [smile]) .Petty tyranny. Monogamy fascism. Sanctimony, people pretending that it’s possible to have hands that are completely clean. Femmephobia. Masculine type folk who think misogyny makes them more “gay” or appropriately faggotty.
VICES: I got lactose issues…does eating too much cheese count? [smile]
I’d like to drink and smoke way more than I do……I’m working on my Old Black Man sitting in a dive bar steez. Packa Kool menthols, plate of fried catfish, Trappey’s hot sauce. and a 7and 7, very little ice. And a jukebox with Bobby Blue Bland, ZZ Hill and Koko Taylor. I’d do that like 4 nights a week.
I WANT: A thrill. A wow. To taste it all. I want it now. I want a pop. I want a Shasta. I want you, the right way, I want you, but I want you to want me too.
TWITTER: @jubakalamka